Hi guys! So, I turned 24 this past weekend (on the 12th) which is so crazy to me. That means in 1 more year I’ll be 25, which means I’ll be half way to 50 – yikes! It may be strange, but I feel like I’m a totally different person than I was this time last year. I think at 23 I didn’t really feel anywhere close to being an adult, but as soon as I hit 24, it’s like a switch got turned on. I still don’t feel like an “adult”, but I for sure feel older and wiser.
A lot has changed in just a year, and lately I’ve been reflecting back on some lessons I’ve learned in that time. That turned into this post, 24 things I’ve learned in, basically, 24 years…
- Be kind to yourself. It can be really difficult to not get mad at yourself when you make a mistake or when you think you aren’t good enough. I do it all the time and get all worked up over every slight hiccup. It’s definitely not healthy. It’s something I’m still working on, but I try to remind myself every day that I’m doing the best I can.
- Everything happens for a reason. I’ve always been a big believer in the idea of if it’s meant to be it will be. It’s really helpful to keep this in mind when something you wanted so badly, doesn’t exactly pan out the way you’d hoped. While it’s disappointing, something better is coming your way.
- Stop caring about what other people think. It’s exhausting and it’s another thing I’m working on being better at. I saw a quote on Pinterest that said “the fear of looking stupid is holding you back” and I try to keep in my mind at all times. Just do whatever makes you happy and don’t worry about what anybody else is doing or thinking.
- Success isn’t happiness – happiness is success. I actually just saw a Ted Talk about this topic and it really changed my outlook on life. Most of us believe that being successful in life is what will make us happy, but it’s really the opposite. Being happy helps you be successful. I definitely recommend giving the video a listen.
- Quality over quantity is important when it comes to friends. I have always been a person who would rather have 1 really great friend than 10 good friends. It’s so important in life to have people who are loyal and who you know would only want the best for you.
- It’s not ok to eat an entire pack of Double Stuffed Oreos in a weekend by yourself…but that won’t stop me from eventually doing it again. Sometimes you just need a whole pack of Oreos, man.
- Traveling as much as you can. I love traveling but I definitely haven’t done it as often as I would like. A lot of time life gets in the way and traveling gets put on the back burner, but before you know it months have gone by and you feel the wanderlust bug creeping in. Save your money and make a list of all the places in the world you want to see – and GO!
- Do whatever makes you happy. Don’t compare your life to someone else’s. As long as you’re doing what makes you happy you’re doing life right.
- It’s ok to say no to things. Up until I was about 15, I never wanted to say no to anyone because I felt like I would be letting them down or disappointing them. Eventually I realized that I was spending a lot of time doing things I didn’t want to do, and I told myself that if I don’t want to do it then I don’t have to. Since then I’ve felt more comfortable telling people no to things, but you also don’t want to say no to everything.
- Family is the most important thing. My family is everything to me and I love them more than anything in this whole world. Spend time with your family whenever you can and don’t take them for granted.
- You’re always tired. Being an adult is just telling people how tired you are all the time. It’s terrible but just embrace it – and try to sneak in a nap whenever you can.
- Stepping out of your comfort zone is the best thing for you, but dang is it difficult. My comfort zone is pretty small so most things make me step away from it, but there have been very few times that I’ve regretted doing so. It’s like they say “life beings at the end of your comfort zone”, so do the things you’re kind of afraid of doing and you’ll be so proud of yourself afterwards.
- I’m a terrible texter. I never thought I would be, but my friends have let it be known how awful I am at it. I either text back in 0.2 seconds or in 2 weeks – there is no in between with me. Sorry friends…
- It’s important to learn how to cook and you should have a few signature meals under your belt – if my mom didn’t force me to cook with her I would literally never have learned to cook anything.
- No one knows what they’re doing. Everyone is just doing the best they can. It’s actually very helpful to remember this when you’re in a stressful situation and are feeling kind of down on yourself.
- Don’t touch your face. My mom has told me this for years and I never listened, but now I wish that I had. Touching your face will cause you to break out and literally no one wants that. So if you want great skin don’t touch your face (I just realized I was touching my face as I was writing this)…
- Enjoy the little things. Sometimes the littlest things are the best things in life.
- It’s perfectly acceptable to binge all 9 seasons of The Office on Netflix over and over again
- Stop worrying about the things you can’t control. I still kind of do this, but I’m not as bad about it as I used to be. I would worry about everything without even really knowing what I was worried about, and I would lose hours of sleep over it. You have to ask yourself if what you’re worrying about is something you can control and if it’s not then you have to let it go.
- Don’t mix your drinks. Ugh I learned this lesson in a totally weird, unexpected way. I was at the lake with my family and I had 2 glasses of white wine and then we went to dinner and I had a strawberry daiquiri – not even thinking. Cut to a few hours later and I was on the bathroom floor very, very sick. Just don’t do it ok? Pick a drink and stick with it.
- Live in the present. In the age of social media it can be hard to focus on being in the moment, but we have to remember that while we want to capture the moments, we have to also really live them in order to make the moment worth while.
- Follow the golden rule: treat people how you would want to be treated. People won’t remember what you said, but they will remember how you made them feel. I always try to treat people with kindness in every situation because that’s how I would want them to treat me. Sometimes it’s easier said than done, but you’ll never feel guilty about treating someone well.
- You’ll probably never feel like a a grown up. Most of the time I feel like a child trapped in an adult’s body and it’s the weirdest thing ever. I feel like I’m much younger than I actually am and that I’m always looking for help from people who are actually grown ups.
- Anything is possible if you’ve got enough nerve
That’s all for now! 24 things I learned by the time I turned 24. I think these are all such important things for everyone to remember in life. I know some of them weren’t really lessons and more like things I tell myself to validate certain Netflix habits, but I really believe that keeping these in my mind everyday has influenced a large part of my life and my personal growth.
What are some of the biggest life lessons you’ve learned so far?